I came out of the infertility closet today. My paternal aunts love to constantly ask when the hubby and I plan to have children. Today, I told her we're not. She asked why and I said,
"I can't have children."
It was heartbreaking and liberating. She whispered, "well, you can adopt."
I said, "nahhh."
With that conversation, I am sure the grapevine is already buzzing and all the other aunts will know my unfortunate truth. I won't have to deal with the dreaded baby question anymore.
Now, that I have done it with family, maybe I'll be able to do it with friends and strangers. I guess it's all baby steps, except there's no baby.
"I can't have children."
It was heartbreaking and liberating. She whispered, "well, you can adopt."
I said, "nahhh."
With that conversation, I am sure the grapevine is already buzzing and all the other aunts will know my unfortunate truth. I won't have to deal with the dreaded baby question anymore.
Now, that I have done it with family, maybe I'll be able to do it with friends and strangers. I guess it's all baby steps, except there's no baby.
Oh honey. I'm sorry. It gets easier. And sometimes, it's aggravating. But you can also have fun with it. In time.
ReplyDeleteI hope it gets easier.
DeleteI hope that telling people you can have kids helps them to be more sensitive around you.
ReplyDeleteI really just want them to think before asking every married couple the kids question. I know everyone thinks having a child is a choice, but for a select few, it's not even an option.
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